When I first read this in Dan Wile’s book, After the Honeymoon, it really resonated with me.  Here it is in an abbreviated form.  It says it all. Paul married Alice and Alice gets loud at parties.  Paul is shy and hates that.  But, if Paul had married Susan, he and Susan would have gotten into a […]

A lot of people are resistant to counseling in general, so why would anyone want counseling for a relationship at a time when they are happy and planning their wedding?  Couples even fear pre-marital counseling, believing that if they bring up conflicts and differences, the wedding will be called off.  They hope that all disagreements […]

Almost two years ago, after the election, I spoke to many clients, friends, and colleagues who dreaded going home for the Holidays due to their fear that the usual arguing over politics would be fiercer than ever.  They were probably correct.  Most of them wanted to be with family for the Holidays, but also wanted […]

When I bring up date night to couples, I frequently get an eye roll. Sometimes, that means “Lame.  We are in real trouble here!  Dinner and a movie won’t fix this.”  Sometimes, the couple will say wistfully, “We did that once. It was fun.”  Often, Date Night doesn’t seem attainable to couples.  They are sad […]

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